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The Top 10 Most Common Ways that DC Daters Sabotage their own Love Lives

Your Dating Diva is bringing you part 3 of our COUNTDOWN TO THE NEW YEAR series with  the Top 10 most common ways that DC daters sabotage their own love lives. 

Because It’s Just Lunch DC is dedicated to bringing you the REAL story (the truth about what’s really going on out there in dateland) these top 10 results are a culmination of what your Personal Account Reps have actually encountered time and time again throughout the year.

 

Jenna felt that the most common actions DC daters were taking to self-sabotage were:

1) Women not calling men who they want to see again

2) Men talking about other women on their dates

3) Women showing up in their bland suits with no sex appeal

4) Men never called women they were interested in

5) Women coming across as too aggressive to much masculine energy, no mystery, no appeal

6) Too much personal info on their first date, including why their marriage failed

7) Talking about past IJL dates to your current IJL date

8 ) Wrote off your date because not every one of your proverbial” boxes” were checked

9) Not flexing on age, ethnicity, or height

10) Coming on too strong, too soon

 

Patti Felt that IJL DC daters did the following to sabotage their own love life:

1) Cancelling on a scheduled date repeatedly

2) Bringing up past dating life with your current date

3) Thinking negatively about yourself, becomes a self- fulfilling prophesy

4) Putting your work or others ahead of your own love life

5) Unhealthy lifestyle, not working out

6) Not taking a risk for love

7) Giving away too much too soon, no mystery

8 ) Not Eating Right

9) Utilizing nearly impossible standards to judge perspective matches

10) Unwillingness to leave you comfort zone distance wise

 

Ashley and Liz felt that It’s Just Lunch DC clients sabotage their love lives by:
1) Consistently cancelling dates

2) Not living a healthy lifestyle

3) Not being open to date different people

4) Not trusting their PARs or Match Makers

5) Refusing to meet someone based on distance

6) Women getting mad if a guy you never met before does not pay on a first date

7) Over analyzing: People who hit it off with their dates, and don’t want to seem desperate by calling their match.

8 ) Being Naive: If someone says they’re getting back in touch with his ex or makes some other excuse that may or may not be true!

9) Not taking any time for themselves. By working out or making sure you look good, you’ll feel good as well.

10) Being too eager. Daters are ready to meet that right person and settle down, but sometimes it’s ok to relax and not rush in too soon

From everything that Your Dating Diva has heard from your It’s Just Lunch DC Personal Account Reps, I would like to challenge you in the New Year!

So here’s the IJL challenge…

Chose just one (1) of our recommendations to help you make the most of your IJL membership in the new year. Of course more than one (1) will work WONDERS, but I promise you that if you chose one (1) of our recommendations and stick to it with determination, your dates and overall experience with IJL will dramatically increase, resulting in a happier and healthier NEW YEAR!

Which recommendation can you see yourself resolving to accomplish in the new year?

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Top 10 Things You Can Do to Get The Most From Your It’s Just Lunch Membership in The Coming Year

Your Dating Diva speaks extensively with your It’s Just Lunch Personal Account Reps each and every day. Every day I learn more and more about the successes and challenges that my daters face. So I though it would be appropriate for you to learn from their expertise as well. In the spirit of the new year, we are going to COUNT DOWN the top 10s.

In this case I would like you to benefit from hearing, from the horses mouth, exactly what your PARs are seeing. They each filled me in on what they felt were the Top 10 Things You Can Do to Get The Most from your It’s Just Lunch Membership in The Coming Year. Read carefully, and Your Dating Diva GUARANTEES that you will maximize your dating experience with us here at It’s Just Lunch:

Jenna said:
1) Open your parameters because you just never know
2) Go to a date, in date mode, not work mode
3) Sex sells, play it up, make an extra effort to look good
4) Have patience while coordinating dates with other busy professionals
5) Go on a second date
6) Give honest feedback
7) Don’t talk about other IJL dates as this is a major turn off
8 ) Have fun- share a bottle of wine
9) If there is no romance there, don’t forget about networking and making new friends
10) If they don’t call back, they are probably just not that into you

Patti Said:
1) Listen to feedback reports
2) Cancel dates responsibly
3) Do not do no shows- show up to your dates
4) Open your parameters/be open to eventually opening parameters
5) Leave detailed messages of feedback you our Personal Account Reps- this speeds up the process for you
6) Shake off a bad date- It’s Just Lunch
7) Remember that your Personal Account Reps are on YOUR side!
8 ) Don’t wait around to hear from the other party, make the first move!
9) Read your IJL Guide to Dating Book
10) Above All: have fun, and learn as much as you can about yourself though dating

Ashley Said:
1) Be open
2) Be realistic- you don’t like everyone you meet in life, so you are not going to be in love with everyone you meet at It’s Just Lunch
3) Make your dating life a priority
4) Send us good, flattering pictures of yourself
5) Realize that your Match Makers and PARs are on your side
6) Don’t be lazy, check your voicemail
7) Come in to meet with us in person
8 ) Provide us with detailed and honest feedback
9) Stop worrying about distance. If you end up hitting it off with someone, distance will not matter
10) Be flexible with scheduling. Keep us informed and up to date with your schedule

So what are your thoughts? If you honestly take this advice into consideration, do you believe you will maximize the experiences that It’s Just Lunch can afford you?

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