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Tough Love Miami; What Kind of Tough Love Can Truly Help Dysfunctional Daters

VH1 has a whole new crew of dysfunctional daters on this years Tough Love: Miami. Episode 1 gave us a glimpse into what’s to come.

YourDatingDiva believes that true tough love only really works if you are helping people get to the bottom of what is causing their undesirable behavior. If these woman can understand and get to the bottom of what their issues are and face those demons head on they might actually stand a fighting chance.

It is only when one understands the root or cause of behavior that real healing can occur. For example, yes, it is true that Jane acts like a tough girl to hide her insecurities. She is abrasive because it is easier to have people hate you instead of seeing you for who you are so that they can not really hate your actual personality, a serious defense mechanism.

What YourDatingDiva is seeing on these shows is punishment of the behavior, not treatment of the root of the issue. The real question becomes WHY is she so defensive.  Was she constantly picked on as a child? Did an Ex convince her that she was worthless? If VH1 Tough Love’s host Steve can uncover that then we’re getting somewhere my darling daters!

Punishing the unwanted behavior is like taking pills for the pain of an infection. The pain is a symptom. The problem is the infection. You need to treat the infection to make the pain permanently disappear. Let’s take a look at what’s to come this year in this deleted scene from VH1 Tough Love Miami Episode 1

YourDatingDiva wants to know, do you think these dysfunctional daters can be cured with Steve’s brand of Tough Love?

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