Trust in Your It’s Just Lunch Date

Your Dating Diva wants to talk to you about trust, more specifically trust in your It’s Just Lunch Date. What happens when we don’t trust? Often times, it causes us to behave in ways  we certainly would not normally. This behavior change or misguided decision making causes unnecessary issues in our personal lives and relationships.

Let’s take Jack for example. Jack was our habitual cancel-er. He would cancel dates left and right. What caused this behavior? Watch and learn…

So Jack, was fearful and untrusting that he would ever like his dates, without even taking a risk or trying to go out on dates. He was also motivated by fear and nervousness. It was easier to avoid the date altogether rather than to take that leap.

In turn, Jack’s dates must have assumed he was rude or self-absorbed, which could not have been further from the truth! When he finally started trusting the dates, he went out with 2 women. The second woman he want out with was an incredible match. Jack finally met someone and they have been dating ever since!

Your Dating Diva also wanted to discuss a date that happened at Olney Grill in Maryland. When they sat down to eat Jill, apparently, just did not want to have a drink.  Jack automatically assumed that if she did not want to have a drink it meant that she just did not like him, so he got very offended, and began acting defensively (behaviors that he would not normally have exhibited). Jill though he was a strange bird because of how defensive he got.

When he called to give feedback, we reminded Jack that Jill was a Mormon. He did not remember that because he had not written down the details about his next date.  A practicing Mormon does not drink! But because of his assumptions, Jack became defensive and again, acted in a manner that was very unlike him.

These assumptions and lack of trust inevitably cause some strange and detrimental behaviors no doubt. Can you think of a time when your assumptions changed the way you treated someone?